Discussion I need actual help

[David🦢]

There’s this one girl in my class that we started talking from the start of the year

She goes to the same gym as me

We got close in the first months of talking even sharing deep secrets to each other

I used to know her for a bit longer but actually got to know each other from the start of the year

She was together with a somewhat friend of mine and he did her dirty

I was her emotional support for a bit

Trying to make her realise he’s not it

I liked her but still tried to prove my friend that he’s not right and he needs to get back with her

Nothing worked

We continued to talk and they slowly fell apart

She used to like my physique stories and every single insta note

Used to apologise every time she replied late

We used to talk almost everyday

On 6.4.2026 she texted me saying if I want to go outside with her sometimes when I’m bored

I was so nervous because I didn’t want to fuck it up and make it awkward

Most of the time I’m silent and the only time I start to talk non stop is when I know the person and I feel comfortable talking with them

I said idk we’ll think about something

On 9.4.26 she told me she started to talk to another dude

She usually goes out with a friend group I know and there was a new dude to the group and everything started from there

On 14.4.26 I finally got some confidence to ask her out

I asked her if she wants to go on the rooftop and drink something while watching the sunset

She said

I can’t sorry

I’m currently trying to make things work out with him and he won’t be okay with it

I don’t want to look like a hoe

It’s been a month since that and they are officially together I guess

She has his physique photo as her phone wallpaper

She goes out with him and her friend group almost everyday


I fucking hate myself for doing this to myself

I know damn well she doesn’t care about me that much for a relationship but each time we talk she looks in my eyes and laughs and does these small things that are enough to get me hooked again

bringing my hope back each time

Even when she was trying something with him she still likes my physique progress photos and looks at me when I workout

I don’t know what to do and I don’t know how yall can help me

Therapy is an option but they won’t understand me at all

Her green eyes have my neck in a knot

Like what did he have in a week that I didn’t in months

My only option of stepping back is just waiting until summer break comes so I don’t see her that much

I’m sorry if I wrote down a whole paragraph for yall to read but Gemini is fucking shit

Hope yall are doing well



much love

 

[ray]

Pff, David, now I’m gonna say she’s not “it”
Honestly, it’s kinda weird that even though she’s dating that guy, she keeps talking to you
also using a physique pic as a phone wallpaper is kinda corny ngl
just forget about her, cut all ties, move on..
As a woman I’m telling you,don’t chase women. especially if you keep talking to her while she’s literally with another guy, you’re just feeding her ego and she’ll be like: “oh yeah, even though I’m with someone else, he still can’t get over me..»
Just forget it. There are like 4 billion other women in the world, she’s not the first and she’s not the last for you.
be above it, don’t embarrass yourself chasing like that.
And she keeps being nice to you because she likes that «male attention orbit»feeling, like being surrounded by multiple guys who orbit her attention and want her…

 

[David🦢]

Pff, David, now I’m gonna say she’s not “it”
Honestly, it’s kinda weird that even though she’s dating that guy, she keeps talking to you
also using a physique pic as a phone wallpaper is kinda corny ngl
just forget about her, cut all ties, move on..
As a woman I’m telling you,don’t chase women. especially if you keep talking to her while she’s literally with another guy, you’re just feeding her ego and she’ll be like: “oh yeah, even though I’m with someone else, he still can’t get over me..»
Just forget it. There are like 4 billion other women in the world, she’s not the first and she’s not the last for you.
be above it, don’t embarrass yourself chasing like that.
And she keeps being nice to you because she likes that «male attention orbit»feeling, like being surrounded by multiple guys who orbit her attention and want her…

Thank you.

I’ll try my best to move back

 

[ray]

Thank you.

I’ll try my best to move back

Everything will be fine, bro
invest your precious time in yourself.
When you create a beautiful garden, you won't have to catch butterflies, they'll come by themselves.

 

[copingmaxnt]

Pff, David, now I’m gonna say she’s not “it”
Honestly, it’s kinda weird that even though she’s dating that guy, she keeps talking to you
also using a physique pic as a phone wallpaper is kinda corny ngl
just forget about her, cut all ties, move on..
As a woman I’m telling you,don’t chase women. especially if you keep talking to her while she’s literally with another guy, you’re just feeding her ego and she’ll be like: “oh yeah, even though I’m with someone else, he still can’t get over me..»
Just forget it. There are like 4 billion other women in the world, she’s not the first and she’s not the last for you.
be above it, don’t embarrass yourself chasing like that.
And she keeps being nice to you because she likes that «male attention orbit»feeling, like being surrounded by multiple guys who orbit her attention and want her…

Well said raymond and yeah david u should listen to raymond its actually one of the best advice u could hear for this. Hope u feel better soon tho bhai

 

[David🦢]

Everything will be fine, bro
invest your precious time in yourself.
When you create a beautiful garden, you won't have to catch butterflies, they'll come by themselves.

I’m so mentally drained from all this bs. I realise that I always be there for them and always make gifts and act nice but don’t get the same back. I invest my time and energy and just got used for that. I make them as my priority. I usually get zero notifications form people and when I start to talk to someone I give my all to them and when I see that I’m just there when needed it fucks me up. Im not even ugly or shit like that. I’m 185/6’1 and I’ve had relationships before but holy shit. I deleted TikTok 2 days ago. I had like 7h daily on it and I just doom scrolled all day because I had no one to talk to or go outside with. I used to watch her reposts all of the time to the point where I memorised all of them. We used to keep a streak but after I deleted the app she texted asking if there’s any problem with me because I left her on sent for 2 days(still haven’t replied). She will ask me why won’t I reply tomorrow at the gym so I hope things go well. After deleting the app I have too much free time like I don’t know what to do. I spent 2h in Gemini and 2h on games and other bs today. I’m tired man.

 

[copingmaxnt]

I’m so mentally drained from all this bs. I realise that I always be there for them and always make gifts and act nice but don’t get the same back. I invest my time and energy and just got used for that. I make them as my priority. I usually get zero notifications form people and when I start to talk to someone I give my all to them and when I see that I’m just there when needed it fucks me up. Im not even ugly or shit like that. I’m 185/6’1 and I’ve had relationships before but holy shit. I deleted TikTok 2 days ago. I had like 7h daily on it and I just doom scrolled all day because I had no one to talk to or go outside with. I used to watch her reposts all of the time to the point where I memorised all of them. We used to keep a streak but after I deleted the app she texted asking if there’s any problem with me because I left her on sent for 2 days(still haven’t replied). She will ask me why won’t I reply tomorrow at the gym so I hope things go well. After deleting the app I have too much free time like I don’t know what to do. I spent 2h in Gemini and 2h on games and other bs today. I’m tired man.

I cant lie im on the same boat as u in terms of doomscrolling due to 0 notifications from anyone other than these forums and playing games like i have nothing better to do other than the gym. Idk how to help u on this but maybe try to stop relying on gemini. I used to chat on c.ai back then way too much to vent about all my shit but i finally stopped doing that right after creating my account on org mainly because i replaced talking to an AI to an actual human online. Im not saying this would help entirely since ure already on here and yet still talking to gemini so i assume itll be different in ur case. Anyways sorry for not being much of a help tho

 

[David🦢]

I cant lie im on the same boat as u in terms of doomscrolling due to 0 notifications from anyone other than these forums and playing games like i have nothing better to do other than the gym. Idk how to help u on this but maybe try to stop relying on gemini. I used to chat on c.ai back then way too much to vent about all my shit but i finally stopped doing that right after creating my account on org mainly because i replaced talking to an AI to an actual human online. Im not saying this would help entirely since ure already on here and yet still talking to gemini so i assume itll be different in ur case. Anyways sorry for not being much of a help tho

Tbh all I do is gym and play games too. After school I go to the gym and spend like 3h there and when I come back I just don’t know what to do. I have cool games on steam but everything just got boring I guess. Started to sleep after the gym so the day ended faster so I can go to the gym again.

 

[David🦢]

Anyways sorry for not being much of a help tho

I appreciate each and every reply. No need to turn into a full therapist. I’m just venting tbh and at the end of the day I have to be the one who comes up with a solution to my problems

 

[copingmaxnt]

Tbh all I do is gym and play games too. After school I go to the gym and spend like 3h there and when I come back I just don’t know what to do. I have cool games on steam but everything just got boring I guess. Started to sleep after the gym so the day ended faster so I can go to the gym again.

3 hours in the gym? damn mines usually 1 hour or 2 hours max (upper lower split). Also im currently just grinding Forza Horizon 6 and Subnautica 2 whenever my friends are available to play and its a lot of fun. Just wanted to include these in case ure looking for something to play on ur own time

 

[David🦢]

3 hours in the gym? damn mines usually 1 hour or 2 hours max (upper lower split). Also im currently just grinding Forza Horizon 6 and Subnautica 2 whenever my friends are available to play and it’s a lot of fun. Just wanted to include these in case ure looking for something to play on ur own time

I’m doing a Pull Push Legs rest repeat but I just take my time between sets and do cardio at the end of the workout

My pc is too slow to run forza and sub

 

[copingmaxnt]

I’m doing a Pull Push Legs rest repeat but I just take my time between sets and do cardio at the end of the workout

My pc is too slow to run forza and sub

Mirin the cardio bhai i often cant get myself to do it coz ill get lazy

 

[ray]

I’m so mentally drained from all this bs. I realise that I always be there for them and always make gifts and act nice but don’t get the same back. I invest my time and energy and just got used for that. I make them as my priority. I usually get zero notifications form people and when I start to talk to someone I give my all to them and when I see that I’m just there when needed it fucks me up. Im not even ugly or shit like that. I’m 185/6’1 and I’ve had relationships before but holy shit. I deleted TikTok 2 days ago. I had like 7h daily on it and I just doom scrolled all day because I had no one to talk to or go outside with. I used to watch her reposts all of the time to the point where I memorised all of them. We used to keep a streak but after I deleted the app she texted asking if there’s any problem with me because I left her on sent for 2 days(still haven’t replied). She will ask me why won’t I reply tomorrow at the gym so I hope things go well. After deleting the app I have too much free time like I don’t know what to do. I spent 2h in Gemini and 2h on games and other bs today. I’m tired man.

I’m sorry you have to go through this right now, but honestly the only thing you need to do is forget about that girl and stop thinking about her… like she was never even there
I understand your desire to be loved by someone..but u know that same love and energy can come not only from other people, but from yourself too, right?
u said you go to the gym besides that, you could just go on walks alone somewhere where there’s lots of greenery and sunlight, spend time with yourself, learn something new. You’re young, u have loot of free time.. read books, any kind honestly I can even give you recommendations if you want (my dad literally gave my brothers a whole list of books every man “must” read )
u could also develop some skill that you can monetize later. Maybe you enjoy editing videos, design, or something else?

Ii don’t know the full situation, but maybe people don’t give you back the same love you give them because they see that you don’t really value yourself enough… and maybe you give love in a way that’s not even good for you. Think about that..

but honestly? Maybe people/girls are scared to talk to you because they think u r too good for them?)

 

[ray]

I cant lie im on the same boat as u in terms of doomscrolling due to 0 notifications from anyone other than these forums and playing games like i have nothing better to do other than the gym. Idk how to help u on this but maybe try to stop relying on gemini. I used to chat on c.ai back then way too much to vent about all my shit but i finally stopped doing that right after creating my account on org mainly because i replaced talking to an AI to an actual human online. Im not saying this would help entirely since ure already on here and yet still talking to gemini so i assume itll be different in ur case. Anyways sorry for not being much of a help tho

Guys if you want you can text me here in dm and vent
or send me something funny on tt, come on share some quick dopamine here’s my @tildevuso, you can send literally anything jfll

Honestly I think it’s totally normal to vent to AI or ask it for advice haha, I literally ask multiple AIs for advice or just talk to them(grok, deepseek, gemini,chat gpt)

 

[ray]

guys I don’t know if this is relevant or not, but recently after getting into MBTI (personality types) I found this app called Personality Database.
At first I thought it was just an app for analyzing personality types, but it turns out you can actually put your own personality type there (after taking a small test), fill out your profile kinda like in a dating app, but the difference is that most people there aren’t really looking for relationships ,mostly just friends and people to talk to.
The people there are actually really normal and chill. Soo many people texted me, both girls and guys
I thought the guys would act freaky but no, they were genuinely normal people u can put your country, list all your interests, and you can even specify in your profile that you’re not interested in relationships at all
It’s honestly a really convenient app and people usually text first themselves. My profile was literally empty with no photos, I only listed my interests, and people still messaged me because they genuinely wanted to be friends sooo… I recommend it honestly. There are actually really cool guys and girls there, and yes, attractive people too
But for now I’d honestly recommend that you, @David🦢 , maybe try making a genuine friendship with someone there. I feel like that’s what you need right now more than a gf at this stage of your life…
Also there are actually quite a lot of people there from Bulgaria..

 

[ray]

guys I don’t know if this is relevant or not, but recently after getting into MBTI (personality types) I found this app called Personality Database.
At first I thought it was just an app for analyzing personality types, but it turns out you can actually put your own personality type there (after taking a small test), fill out your profile kinda like in a dating app, but the difference is that most people there aren’t really looking for relationships ,mostly just friends and people to talk to.
The people there are actually really normal and chill. Soo many people texted me, both girls and guys
I thought the guys would act freaky but no, they were genuinely normal people u can put your country, list all your interests, and you can even specify in your profile that you’re not interested in relationships at all
It’s honestly a really convenient app and people usually text first themselves. My profile was literally empty with no photos, I only listed my interests, and people still messaged me because they genuinely wanted to be friends sooo… I recommend it honestly. There are actually really cool guys and girls there, and yes, attractive people too
But for now I’d honestly recommend that you, @david, maybe try making a genuine friendship with someone there. I feel like that’s what you need right now more than a gf at this stage of your life…
Also there are actually quite a lot of people there from Bulgaria..

Why does this sound like an aggressive app promotion

 

[David🦢]

Why does this sound like an aggressive app promotion

I’m sold

 

[copingmaxnt]

guys I don’t know if this is relevant or not, but recently after getting into MBTI (personality types) I found this app called Personality Database.
At first I thought it was just an app for analyzing personality types, but it turns out you can actually put your own personality type there (after taking a small test), fill out your profile kinda like in a dating app, but the difference is that most people there aren’t really looking for relationships ,mostly just friends and people to talk to.
The people there are actually really normal and chill. Soo many people texted me, both girls and guys
I thought the guys would act freaky but no, they were genuinely normal people u can put your country, list all your interests, and you can even specify in your profile that you’re not interested in relationships at all
It’s honestly a really convenient app and people usually text first themselves. My profile was literally empty with no photos, I only listed my interests, and people still messaged me because they genuinely wanted to be friends sooo… I recommend it honestly. There are actually really cool guys and girls there, and yes, attractive people too
But for now I’d honestly recommend that you, @David🦢 , maybe try making a genuine friendship with someone there. I feel like that’s what you need right now more than a gf at this stage of your life…
Also there are actually quite a lot of people there from Bulgaria..

I remember looking though that to see which characters are INFJs but i never made an account tho

 

[David🦢]

I’ll check the app after the gym and I’ll let yall know what type I’m am

 

[ray]

I’ll check the app after the gym and I’ll let yall know what type I’m am

okay