Seeking Advice What is it like being a woman

got.daim said:
What is the dating like, what struggles do you face day to day, I want to hear what life is like for you

@paris
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see I don’t really think there’s too much of a difference between men and women on a day to day basis

however, I do believe it’s so much easier for guys to become friends. girls typically have a lot of secret animosity towards each other and it’s frustrating. you’d think that people who spend all their time together enjoy each others presence, but in my experience girls tend to take “keep your enemies closer” more seriously. guys can make one joke and immediately get buddy buddy with each other. in group work for classes it’s only acceptable for girls to group together cause typically guys don’t want one to infiltrate. different treatment.

There’s a double standard societally. I get judged for liking things that a guy would never be questioned about. There’s more things women are expected to pick up on. If I’m mean to someone I’m immediately labeled a bitch. If I don’t smile at someone I’m not welcoming. I have to be more socially conscious of how I present myself so that I’m accepted.

Dating wise is where the most expectations are. I’m supposed to be innocent, but have the confidence of someone who isn’t. Men claim they want virgins but don’t have the patience to put up with a girl who is uncomfortable with the thought of being that intimate with someone. you date people? Slut. You don’t? Loser freak weirdo. If I cared about what people thought life would be way more difficult.
 
paris said:
There’s more things women are expected to pick up on. If I’m mean to someone I’m immediately labeled a bitch. If I don’t smile at someone I’m not welcoming. I have to be more socially conscious of how I present myself so that I’m accepted.
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It's the same for me, I have to do these things rationally, it isn't innate for me either because I have autism and do not pick up on social cues, I practice my facial expressions for hours in the mirror
paris said:
Men claim they want virgins but don’t have the patience to put up with a girl who is uncomfortable with the thought of being that intimate with someone. you date people? Slut. You don’t? Loser freak weirdo. If I cared about what people thought life would be way more difficult.
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hm, interesting, why don't you just date someone and then do not do the sexual things with them until marriage, that's what I'm planning on doing, but I'm afraid of getting cheated on, most women want sex or something today, the idea of even being thought of like that is making my chest heavy, the entire topic is nerve racking
paris said:
There’s a double standard societally. I get judged for liking things that a guy would never be questioned about.
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same for women, I can't be interested in certain 'feminine' things or else I'll be critiqued
paris said:
see I don’t really think there’s too much of a difference between men and women on a day to day basis
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hm, do you guys diet and workout too?
I will go over my daily schedule and we can compare

Wakeup
Row (rowing machine) for approx 2 hrs to stay lean
Workout (if it isn't a rest day)
Eat breakfast
Goto park, and swing on the swing set
Goto library and make any returns or pickups
Go home watch film if I got pickup
Make lunch, maybe read some cook books while eating
Read for a couple of hours
Do yard maintenance and take care of garden
Make business calls make sure everything is okay
Wash clothes or any household chores
Prepare outfit for tomorrow
Feed animals, change litter if needed
Shower
Make dinner, while eating read more of cook books or see if I can find more online
Order more ingredients if I'm out
Order more household items if out
Redlight + Duolingo
Then wind down with approx 30 minutes of reading

I tend to shitpost on forums throughout the day, inbetween or during activities

I am a truecel so I've just learned to give up on romance in general since it's something that I will likely just have to go without
 
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