Experiences I am a wonderful person, I do not understand why I am single

[got.daim]

It's not really rage, it's just extreme sadness when I speak on this subject, I've tried having contemporary discourse on the topic, but it usually results in disengagement, I do not understand why it is societal voodoo to even speak about this issue, but here I will go over my issues, and I hope none of the prior mentioned peoples will reply to this thread

Firstly, I do not understand what women want, I am a polite, well groomed, decent looking tall male, I goto the gym, I have hobbies, but they never interact with me

I do not understand, I sometimes try to approach women but it always leads to my disgust, or, it leads to disengagement on my end, what do I do to fix this?

Any women here, feel free to critique what I am doing and help me improve

(I am autistic, so it may be because of that, I tend to not pickup on social cues nor norms)

 

[broccoli]

son why did u get banned on.com

 

[gatogato is verified member.]

i believe it's your core beliefs. politeness means nothing if you inherently believe women always have it easier, that you are owed consideration strictly on the biases you're polite, well groomed, etc.

you probably think you are more these things than you may actually be just from the fact you're doing them intentionally. but your beliefs towards women will alter how you interact even if you don't notice it. having autism probably just makes it even more difficult than normal to genuinely assess

 

[God]

You said it leads to YOUR disgust and disengagement, which means it's a mental issue on your part, not the girls.

No amount of good grooming, height, personality, looks and hobbies will fix your approach to the situation.

You need to be ready to be in a relationship yourself. If you aren't, and you disengage easily, then so does the woman. Women aren't stupid and they won't stay with you just because you're good looking (as @gato said), you need to actively show them that you love them and you WILL stay with them because of who THEY are and not because who you are.

 

[got.daim]

son why did u get banned on.com

Alting

 

[got.daim]

You said it leads to YOUR disgust and disengagement, which means it's a mental issue on your part, not the girls.

Sorry I meant their disengagement, but yeah I'm not going to interact with a woman after she tells me her father was a drug dealer and that her entire family were crack addicts, neither am I going to engage with someone who says they've slept with 20 people, it's retarded

 

[got.daim]

you need to actively show them that you love them and you WILL stay with them because of who THEY are and not because who you are.

I do if they're a good person, again, I previously mentioned I will not be making a house wife out of a crack whore

 

[got.daim]

you probably think you are more these things than you may actually be just from the fact you're doing them intentionally. but your beliefs towards women will alter how you interact even if you don't notice it.

Wdym, I treat them nicely like humans, I talk to them as a blank slate without my other prior existing views, I think I already said this

 

[got.daim]

i believe it's your core beliefs. politeness means nothing if you inherently believe women always have it easier, that you are owed consideration strictly on the biases you're polite, well groomed, etc.

I'm confused on why I am not being considered, especially since I see women claim that these are their standards

 

[gatogato is verified member.]

Wdym, I treat them nicely like humans, I talk to them as a blank slate without my other prior existing views, I think I already said this

it's simply not true and i don't even need to watch how u interact with women irl. how u feel and view women in general do play a part in how u treat all women, i hate to be that guy. to say all that u do about women constantly and to say u treat them like a blank slate is unfortunately very difficult to take seriously.

I'm confused on why I am not being considered, especially since I see women claim that these are their standards

these are typically bare minimum standards.

even if i met a guy who was wealthy, fit, clean, educated, etc. some guy who went above and beyond, it genuinely wouldnt matter if he disagreed with some of my core values. most women dont want to be in a position where theyre "the only good one" because the implication is all women are undeserving in general and if you feel that way right out the gate, what else do yall disagree on, etc.

 

[got.daim]

it's simply not true and i don't even need to watch how u interact with women irl. how u feel and view women in general do play a part in how u treat all women, i hate to be that guy. to say all that u do about women constantly and to say u treat them like a blank slate is unfortunately very difficult to take seriously.

It is, I've been told that I am a very generous caring boyfriend

these are typically bare minimum standards.

even if i met a guy who was wealthy, fit, clean, educated, etc. some guy who went above and beyond, it genuinely wouldnt matter if he disagreed with some of my core values. most women dont want to be in a position where theyre "the only good one" because the implication is all women are undeserving in general and if you feel that way right out the gate, what else do yall disagree on, etc.

interesting, so values are the main thing limiting me? Hm.. should I join some political groups in search for a woman with similar views and ideologies as myself

implication is all women are undeserving in general and if you feel that way right out the gate, what else do yall disagree on, etc.

i believe that most people in general are dysgenic and undeserving of many things, i view them as nasty icky thingies who roam the earth like cockroaches, i am an extreme germ-a-phobe

 

[gatogato is verified member.]

It is, I've been told that I am a very generous caring boyfriend

i believe that most people in general are dysgenic and undeserving of many things, i view them as nasty icky thingies who roam the earth like cockroaches, i am an extreme germ-a-phobe

not sure how to respond to this tbh, i dont wanna run in circles but at the end of the day it's ur life. u feel like ur awesome n somehow get the short end of the stick 24/7 for no real reason, im inclined to believe u. i dont know u like that so i can only speculate based on what u post.

interesting, so values are the main thing limiting me? Hm.. should I join some political groups in search for a woman with similar views and ideologies as myself

probably wouldnt hurt. idk if it needs to be specific to politics but in general u'd find a woman more likely to align with what u think a woman should be if u start there

 

[got.daim]

u feel like ur awesome n somehow get the short end of the stick 24/7 for no real reason

I offered a reason in my original post, I believe it's because of my autism and lack of being able to carry conversations, plus I am sometimes too tired to do facial expressions and fake my voice, so I make blank stares and speak in a monotone voice

Again, I generally do not understand the woman, which is why I was asking for advice in general, I am trying to understand what women want in general, thank you for mentioning the ideological points that you did, but I still don't understand, I agreed a lot with my prior relationships on almost everything

Which makes me circle back to the autism, I believe that I should probably try some trials and errors with the autism, and become more resilient within my 'activity' sorry I don't know the word, the opposite of tired

probably wouldnt hurt. idk if it needs to be specific to politics but in general u'd find a woman more likely to align with what u think a woman should be if u start there

what else should I do? I feel like the politics might be hard, I found most of my prior relationships VIA libraries (looking for books in sections that I liked) or seeing them in spaces frequently

I had this one lady approach me surprisingly though, it lead nowhere though, it was at a store while I was looking through their vinyl