What is the most intimate romantic/sexual thing

danielspecialday! said:
could i find a girl that would care for me like this on bumble?
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In concept, sure, but likelihood is low. I work with a lot of men who have had some serious challenges with Bumble. Bumble was successful in it's marketing but mechanically it's functionally identical to Tinder. The whole "women message first thing" is true on a technicality, but it doesn't change how Tinder works. Both parties have to swipe, both have to swipe positively on each other, but then guys get put in a limbo of being unable to send anything. In concept, it was designed to empower women and minimize harassment, but in execution it just adds an extra step. Additionally. most heterosexual courting rituals in the western world usually put a pressure on men initiating/pursuing way more than women.

Tldr Bumble often makes men feel even more powerless seeing that a girl matched with them and then just having to sit there and do nothing looking at a screen saying "____ matched with you. Wait for her to make the first move!". Then never getting a response at all, or if you do, statistically it's more of just "hey" and then the burden put back on you to lead the conversation.

If you're looking for an actual partner, personally and professionally I ALWAYS recommend OkCupid. It's free, very autism friendly, and immediately allows for both weeding out hard no related topics, and for having women take waaaaaay more time exploring your profile before swiping instead of just zooming past your first picture. Match frequency and quality is much more likely there.
 
Like two weeks ago, when our two friend groups were out clubbing, my girlfriend and I broke off from the group and went to this local park.
We found some steps that led to a lake, and we sat down, took our shoes off and dipped our feet in. We lay back on the steps and held hands.
We probably sat there, side-by-side, for the gist of an hour. We made out after (wink wink), but I really did love just being with her, looking up at the starry sky.
 
The Wife said:
In concept, sure, but likelihood is low. I work with a lot of men who have had some serious challenges with Bumble. Bumble was successful in it's marketing but mechanically it's functionally identical to Tinder. The whole "women message first thing" is true on a technicality, but it doesn't change how Tinder works. Both parties have to swipe, both have to swipe positively on each other, but then guys get put in a limbo of being unable to send anything. In concept, it was designed to empower women and minimize harassment, but in execution it just adds an extra step. Additionally. most heterosexual courting rituals in the western world usually put a pressure on men initiating/pursuing way more than women.

Tldr Bumble often makes men feel even more powerless seeing that a girl matched with them and then just having to sit there and do nothing looking at a screen saying "____ matched with you. Wait for her to make the first move!". Then never getting a response at all, or if you do, statistically it's more of just "hey" and then the burden put back on you to lead the conversation.

If you're looking for an actual partner, personally and professionally I ALWAYS recommend OkCupid. It's free, very autism friendly, and immediately allows for both weeding out hard no related topics, and for having women take waaaaaay more time exploring your profile before swiping instead of just zooming past your first picture. Match frequency and quality is much more likely there.
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I was honestly just messing around when i posted that, my fault i shouldve been a tad bit clearer. but everything you explained about the mechanics and the various points you made about how these apps operate under the hood really makes sense to me now
 
zen said:
What in ur opinion is the most intimate experience u wanna try or have tried, There's a bunch of options like cuddling , kissing , sex obviously and a lot more I could keep going on

Me personally something i really wanna try is showering with my partner I think it would be the most intimate thing or cuddling really.

(i know there's a thread like this talking about whats the most romantic thing ur partner can do but this is different since it's about experiences)
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doing favours for eachother or cuddling together skin to skin
 
sparkle said:
doing favours for eachother or cuddling together skin to skin
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I moved just weeks after meeting @Flint. He was really big on acts of service but that's a love language that's hard to do over distance. This resulted in about a two year pattern of me intentionally never throwing out water bottles in my car. I did a lot of work on the road back then and was driving multiple hours every day. Every few months when @Flint would visit, he'd clean these water bottles out, often literally 75 or more at a time. It was an artificially created way to have that act of service intimacy trigger.

Unrelated but I miss being that lazy. I should make him clean for me more often tbh
 
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