I've been toying with an idea for a while now. I believe that a person measures their own value based on two primary scales: their appearance or life skills.
For example, if you have an amazing basketball player that isn't happy with his appearance, he is able to find value within himself because he is a good basketball player. Obviously the reverse can happen with somebody who has no talents whatsoever but is satisfied with their appearance.
Self worth plays a critical role in being content with who you are. I believe that every human is on this psychological see-saw that shifts between relying on your appearance and your talents. Some people will believe themselves to be unnatractive and some people will believe their talents are of no worth or that they are not good at things like being funny or playing sports.
This brings me to my core theory that when someone is unnattractive and untalented, their self worth evaporates. They drop into a psychological void where they are guaranteed to hate themselves.
Some people might be able to live their entire lives riding off the high of dominating one of the primary scales I mentioned earlier. Some people will start to believe they are not as attractive or talented as they thought themselves to be. But some unlucky folks out there happen to hate what they see in the mirror, and only see worthlessness in their skill set. For them life becomes a daily excersize where they are forced to watch the lucky folks navigate the world with confidence and optimism. These unlucky people have to step off the see-saw and completely redefine what makes their life's worth living.
In the end, you can decide to either mourn the metrics you were denied, or you can step off the see-saw and instead choose to build a foundation based on your character.
tldr: Our self worth balances on being either attractive or talented. When one fails, we go to the other. Some have neither, which causes self worth to disappear.
For example, if you have an amazing basketball player that isn't happy with his appearance, he is able to find value within himself because he is a good basketball player. Obviously the reverse can happen with somebody who has no talents whatsoever but is satisfied with their appearance.
Self worth plays a critical role in being content with who you are. I believe that every human is on this psychological see-saw that shifts between relying on your appearance and your talents. Some people will believe themselves to be unnatractive and some people will believe their talents are of no worth or that they are not good at things like being funny or playing sports.
This brings me to my core theory that when someone is unnattractive and untalented, their self worth evaporates. They drop into a psychological void where they are guaranteed to hate themselves.
Some people might be able to live their entire lives riding off the high of dominating one of the primary scales I mentioned earlier. Some people will start to believe they are not as attractive or talented as they thought themselves to be. But some unlucky folks out there happen to hate what they see in the mirror, and only see worthlessness in their skill set. For them life becomes a daily excersize where they are forced to watch the lucky folks navigate the world with confidence and optimism. These unlucky people have to step off the see-saw and completely redefine what makes their life's worth living.
In the end, you can decide to either mourn the metrics you were denied, or you can step off the see-saw and instead choose to build a foundation based on your character.
tldr: Our self worth balances on being either attractive or talented. When one fails, we go to the other. Some have neither, which causes self worth to disappear.
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