Discussion Can you fall in love with no shared interests, only core values?

[gatogato is verified member.]

another question from gato WHAAAA NO WAYYYY


anyways,

i saw a post online recently that mentioned people who are looking for partners with shared interests and hobbies on dating apps are inherently robbing themselves of potentially good relationships. i was curious as to what everybody else thought about this mentality?

i agree personally. my husband and i met through games but im not a gamer at all. the only games i play by myself are social ones and thats when i have a specific homie im tryna catch or so. i dont game by myself otherwise and use games as a type of icebreaker during voice calls. it makes the silence feel more intentional, i think. i dont mind silence but i know some people who do.
my husband is a MAJOR gamer. super competitive and at a much higher skill bracket then me in nearly every game possible. i feel the fact im hella uninterested in games and he's super into them makes things fun and interesting. i feel if we were both hardcore gamers itd actually be more of a problem then a benefit just because our core values are focusing on what makes life a bit easier but also improving ourselves and holding each other accountable. if we both wanted to game 24/7 i can promise u neither one of us would go "maybe we should get off and get ready for work" yknow?

 

[ober99]

I think being able to spend time apart is crucial for any ltr. part of that is having different hobbies. But when you go to the extremity of not having any shared hobbies I think it becomes impossible to maintain a ltr. You'll just become very bored and biter that whenever you suggest doing something together the other person is uninterested or unwilling to do it, and I think on the opposing end, you'd get fed up of pretending to enjoy these things or putting up with them.

 

[teddy101]

good question but context is extremely important and your goal too you cant just make a strict rule even you would nt act the way you think in certain situations

 

[Yun]

yeah you can, and imo it's ideal too as long as you both got the same core values because you can always learn new stuff from the other person, a relationship consists of compromises anyway, imo it's not really important to like the exact same stuff to be compatible but it would be obviously beneficial if you have at least some shared interests.

 

[emerald]

No shared interests/hobbies ever? Or just at the beginning?

Tbh either way I think yes it’s possible but the latter would be preferable/ideal

 

[God]

Relationships are always possible. It's two people sharing deep intimate feelings, it doesn't have to do anything with hobbies, interests or any features.

A white supremacist nazi can still fall in love with a black woman, because it's simply feelings that control love (although not sure if the woman would share these particular feelings..)

The relationship MIGHT be stale but it's doable, and with time you'll find common ground.

 

[Rain]

I have absolutely nothing in common with my gf, which makes me wanna break up more and more with her
while she's obsessed with me
so my conclusion will be depends on the person and looks take over interests any ways