What matters in a relationship
So in the blackpill community or the "looksmaxxing" community people say that looks matter and it's the most important and I agree with that but the thing is once most looksmaxxers actually start succeeding they're probably not gonna be an incel but they need to realise that looks alone won't get u in an enjoyable long term relationship like let's say a person becomes very attractive from "looksmaxxing" they would obviously wanna find their looksmatch or someone similar to their looks correct? Well when you're looking for a partner of similar looks level personality is gonna matter because they're in a similar level of attractiveness to you if I was gonna date my looksmatch i wouldn't want her to be a shit person so just in general a chunk of looksmaxxers or people in the community are nd or have self esteem issues/other issues and those people should try to learn how to communicate and socialise along with trying to fix confidence and self esteem issues if they have them since that will be important if u want to experience actual love in a long term relationship maybe with just looks u can get some sluts or mansluts to sleep with u if they're on the same level of attractiveness maybe or below but that's just for pleasure and will never be a long term relationship where you actually experience love water thread tho people who have thought about this critically will usually have realised this
Looks still matter because it's the prerequisite for getting into a relationship and in general will benefit u a lot more than personality i think the thing is 70/30 for looks
Summary:Usually even if you become attractive you won't experience good love if u have a bad/very bad personality with ur looksmatch
I want thoughts on this and I'm open to hearing you and debating if you want.
Yeah, looks and perceived value in general are one of the most important things in meeting women and social benefits in general, but the nuance and complexity comes from what women are really looking for.
Personality DOES matter in a relationship and keeping someone, but having a good personality isn't a universal thing and is subjective heavily depending on the opposing parties personality and values align with, which is why i fake all my social interactions lmao.
The goal for humans are to pass on DNA sequences to ensure species survival (looks and genetic quality markers), survive environmental pressures like climate/predators/disease (ability to provide safety/resources), and efficiently adapt best to survive the local niche (looking at the individuals accomplishments and past troubles to see if they are fit for offspring and such): this is all because females invest far more energy into reproduction than males, so because of this high cost, females evolved to be highly selective.
in the past million and million of years of evolution our ancestors have gone through: height and muscle mass indicated physical strength for hunting, defending against predators, protecting offspring. Symmetry and skin quality show a strong immune system and lack of parasites or genetic mutations.
BUT IN OUR MODERN SOCIETY, these traits have became largely obsolete for resource acquisition. Intelligence, specialized skills, and emotional stability generate far more monetary resources and security than big muscles or a sexy face do.
However, human dna obviously changes incredibly slowly, it takes 10,000s of years for traits to fade. But because our modern world is only decades old, our deeply ingrained subconscious preferences remain for "survival".
Point being, looks matter alot to get in, personality can be frauded if you are determined enough but it plays an important role, but social status and security are the biggest turn ons: just make hella money bro