You situation isnt changeable, how you feel about it is
THE SCIENCE
I've always held the belief that negative feelings is always gonna be a natural response to negative input. Emotions are a perfectly natural evolutionary response, but did you know the physical responses to emotions only last around 90 seconds?
How Long Do Emotions Last? The 90-Second Rule (And Why You Stay Stuck) https://www.4cmentalhealth.com/blogs/exercises-and-worksheets/how-long-does-an-emotion-last
If any of your emotions last any longer, it's quite literally of your own doing
Embedding Research on Emotion Duration in a Network Model - PMC https://share.google/CoOeT0x6EzzX2Yk5c
"people higher in neuroticism or rumination have longer negative emotional episodes"
Of course there are factors we sometimes can't control, such as depression and past traumas, but it's not as if we're entirely helpless in these situations either.
Biomedical Reports https://share.google/7DEdXzW5fecklYRP8
TLDR:
Depression is largely hormonal, with over 1/3rd of all depression cases linked to hormonal problems. I mean makes sense if you think about it, in what world are 16% of British citizenship having a bad enough life to genuinely have depression?
what we can do from here is work on our hormonal health through exercise, diet, habits, and any needed aid.
THE PHILOSOPHY
In Buddhism it's widely accepted that suffering is inevitable. We can't outrun life, we must face it. We must learn how to accept our suffering, and live a fulfilling life.
"The Buddha said, 'well maybe it will help you with the eighty-fourth problem.'
'The eighty-fourth problem?' Said the man. 'What's the eighty-fourth problem?'
Said the Buddha, 'you want to not have any problems.'" - a story from "Buddhism plain and simple" Steve Hagen page 17
I think this is the problem alot of people in the looksmaxxing community have. We want to run away from our problems. "If I just get better looking, I'll get that girl, I'll make friends" even if we reach our goals we want more. It's human nature. We don't want to be happy, we want to achieve.
We are in a never ending loop.
How many times have you seen a good-looking guy on one of the forums complaining about his life, or his looks? This is because they don't realise, suffering will always exist. Maybe for a little you'll feel good, but when you get used to your new life, you'll find new things to be upset about.
It's like a 2 year old trying to understand quantum physics, they simply can't. But if you were someone like Einstein you'd find the same work easy. Consciousness and the human experience is a spectrum.
The solution is two things. 1st we must accept our suffering. The 2nd thing we must do is stop our rumination, let things go for your own sake. One and two are directly intertwined. If we look back to our first section you'll note how I said emotions only last for around 90 seconds, if all emotions last around 90 seconds then all futher suffering is due to our own doing, our own thoughts. Although it's hard, we must move on from the things that can hurt us. We all know our triggers, our soft spots. The best solution is prevention, if you can't prevent then we must move on. Talk to a friend, play a game, do a chore, whatever. Do not let your mind linger, or suffer the consequences.
RID YOURSELF OF WANT
Have you ever thought your life was over? Have a near death experience? Mess up and get into trouble, get a bad grade on a test? I know I have. Life finds a way, and most life is far worse off than us. If you live in a 1st world country you are already living a better life than most of the world, and they live. We've already discussed how life is just suffering with no clear meaning or purpose, so why go on? Well in my eyes, life is just waiting for that next fleet of happiness. How much of our life do we spend waiting? Where there is life, there is suffering, and where there is suffering, there is happiness. You will be happy again, you will experience something new. If you do not then oh well, life will go on and one day you will die.
My point here is, nothing except food and water is a need. As long as you are alive anything is possible, as long as you make it so, but it's not needed.
I want you to think honestly, what meaning is there to life? Unless you are religious, I doubt you could place a genuine extestensial meaning on life. This is why nothing matters, and when nothing matters, you can do anything you want.
Cool things to look into:
https://youtube.com/@moojiji?si=yMphLvOwoIPgf1Is
THE SCIENCE
I've always held the belief that negative feelings is always gonna be a natural response to negative input. Emotions are a perfectly natural evolutionary response, but did you know the physical responses to emotions only last around 90 seconds?
How Long Do Emotions Last? The 90-Second Rule (And Why You Stay Stuck) https://www.4cmentalhealth.com/blogs/exercises-and-worksheets/how-long-does-an-emotion-last
If any of your emotions last any longer, it's quite literally of your own doing
Embedding Research on Emotion Duration in a Network Model - PMC https://share.google/CoOeT0x6EzzX2Yk5c
"people higher in neuroticism or rumination have longer negative emotional episodes"
Of course there are factors we sometimes can't control, such as depression and past traumas, but it's not as if we're entirely helpless in these situations either.
Biomedical Reports https://share.google/7DEdXzW5fecklYRP8
TLDR:
Depression is largely hormonal, with over 1/3rd of all depression cases linked to hormonal problems. I mean makes sense if you think about it, in what world are 16% of British citizenship having a bad enough life to genuinely have depression?
what we can do from here is work on our hormonal health through exercise, diet, habits, and any needed aid.
THE PHILOSOPHY
In Buddhism it's widely accepted that suffering is inevitable. We can't outrun life, we must face it. We must learn how to accept our suffering, and live a fulfilling life.
"The Buddha said, 'well maybe it will help you with the eighty-fourth problem.'
'The eighty-fourth problem?' Said the man. 'What's the eighty-fourth problem?'
Said the Buddha, 'you want to not have any problems.'" - a story from "Buddhism plain and simple" Steve Hagen page 17
I think this is the problem alot of people in the looksmaxxing community have. We want to run away from our problems. "If I just get better looking, I'll get that girl, I'll make friends" even if we reach our goals we want more. It's human nature. We don't want to be happy, we want to achieve.
We are in a never ending loop.
How many times have you seen a good-looking guy on one of the forums complaining about his life, or his looks? This is because they don't realise, suffering will always exist. Maybe for a little you'll feel good, but when you get used to your new life, you'll find new things to be upset about.
It's like a 2 year old trying to understand quantum physics, they simply can't. But if you were someone like Einstein you'd find the same work easy. Consciousness and the human experience is a spectrum.
The solution is two things. 1st we must accept our suffering. The 2nd thing we must do is stop our rumination, let things go for your own sake. One and two are directly intertwined. If we look back to our first section you'll note how I said emotions only last for around 90 seconds, if all emotions last around 90 seconds then all futher suffering is due to our own doing, our own thoughts. Although it's hard, we must move on from the things that can hurt us. We all know our triggers, our soft spots. The best solution is prevention, if you can't prevent then we must move on. Talk to a friend, play a game, do a chore, whatever. Do not let your mind linger, or suffer the consequences.
RID YOURSELF OF WANT
Have you ever thought your life was over? Have a near death experience? Mess up and get into trouble, get a bad grade on a test? I know I have. Life finds a way, and most life is far worse off than us. If you live in a 1st world country you are already living a better life than most of the world, and they live. We've already discussed how life is just suffering with no clear meaning or purpose, so why go on? Well in my eyes, life is just waiting for that next fleet of happiness. How much of our life do we spend waiting? Where there is life, there is suffering, and where there is suffering, there is happiness. You will be happy again, you will experience something new. If you do not then oh well, life will go on and one day you will die.
My point here is, nothing except food and water is a need. As long as you are alive anything is possible, as long as you make it so, but it's not needed.
I want you to think honestly, what meaning is there to life? Unless you are religious, I doubt you could place a genuine extestensial meaning on life. This is why nothing matters, and when nothing matters, you can do anything you want.
Cool things to look into:
https://youtube.com/@moojiji?si=yMphLvOwoIPgf1Is