[QOTW #6] Can you love a partner without physical attraction?
Do you think you could be in love with somebody you genuinely can't find physically attractive? Can you love them but not enter a long term relationship with them, or vice versa?
What if you found them attractive at one point and something changed? Does it being something plausibly fixable (hair color, weight) change how you view it vs something permanent (surgery, injury)?
Old thread, but my reply will be very similar to
@Flint above
I believe that when seeking a partner, looks and attraction is a completely valid concern. For most people it's a natural and important part of any relationship. Of course it's not everything but it's not at all nothing either.
But in the grand scheme of things, love is deeper than just appearance. It's about shared values, feeling of trust, safety, good personality and how someone makes you feel. Eventually, after a few months in a relationship, you'll notice that you love your partner in their natural state more than when they actually put effort. After half a year you'll notice you aren't paying much attention to looks at all, and realise that your partner slowly doesnt care either. After a few years, you understand that the value of your partner never stemmed from their looks but who they are as a person.
The most important values in creating a family are patience, being caring, being kind, being creative and intelligent, being loyal, being good with kids.
Notice how none of them are about looks? :)