The ULTIMATE guide to socializing (nd incels GTFIH)

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INTRODUCTION:

As we all know by now, if you are neurodivergent, your life probably consists of isolation. Society is built by, and for neurotypicals. Nts do not care about logic, truth, or real connection. Instead, they follow this sort of robot-styled behaviour similar to a social script.

If you try to add hyperfixations or intelligence to the an interaction with a normie you will secure yourself a failure EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.

You cannot outlogic the NT brain. Instead, you must adapt and follow.

THEORY #1, FOLLOW THE NORMS:

Concept: So as we talked about in the introduction, the biggest threat to a conversation with a NT normie is intelligence and niche knowledge. If you know more than them about a topic, you are not impressing them whatsoever. You are making them feel inferior to you. When NTs feel inferior they will reject you and cast you away.

Protocol: As much as I hate to say this, you must sabotage your knowledge to match the lowest common denominator (NTs knowledge jfl)

Execution: Consume normie media. You need to watch what they watch, even if its complete retardslop. Familiarize yourself with trends and mimic how they think. Even if it leads you to throw around buzzwords incorrectly. Down below will be the most straightforward rules to follow in a social interaction.

This works because of the mirroring principle. If you match their exact level, even if completely faked, their awareness passes you as 'safe to interact with.'

THEORY #2, THE RULE OF 3:

Concept: This is my personal favorite. Approaching big groups is always high risk, and itll often lead to failure. This is because NDs think its easier to approach one person in order to have a 1:1 conversation. This can easily backfire if you do not match their energy, and often leads to awkward moments. Another mistake would be approaching 4+ people. Its always too chaotic. Instead, approach group of 3s.

Protocol: In a group of 3, the social dynamic fluctuates naturally. It is quite hard for any group of three to maintain a perfect conversation with each other (as in equal conversation at all times.) Most of the time, there is a dominant speaker, an active listener, and a ''floating'' third.

Execution: Observe the group from afar and wait for the moment with that one floating third. You can tell who that is by noticing these three things:
Gets cut off
Looks at their phone
Physically leans back of the convo
Now, approach the floating third. Make a low stakes observation, or ask a situational question. This works because you aren't ruining the conversation by invading it. Instead, you are rescuing the third wheel from their own exclusion.

THEORY #3, PERSONALITY:

Concept: NT socialization is just like a bunch of robots pretending to care about you. They dont listen to what you say, instead they listen to the category of your response so they can give you their preprogrammed rebuttal.

Execution: Stop trying to be original. Originality is only acceptable once you get closer to the people you talk to. Slowly build up to that. Always remember to feed into their ego, never try to help. For example if someone is complaining about their teacher, do not try and help by saying something like "maybe you could try to be a better student academically" or something along those lines. That is a fatal error. They dont want help, they want you to back them up. Instead you could have said "yeah that teacher is actually so bad and bias"

FEED THEIR EGO

Once they see you are backing them up, while following the normie vocab ofc, they will continue talking, which means you are successfully socializing without trying. Sharing that one hatred towards someone with another is one of the best ways to communicate and form bonds. Even micro ones.

THEORY #4, HALO EFFECT:

Concept: NDs often tend to have 'weird' interests. I obviously put these in quotes because thats what normies think of them. If you openly talk about your actual hobbies you trigger a gagreflex in the normies that cause them to want to opt out of the conversation. However, if you adopt the aesthetics of tiktok trends without actually caring about them, you borrow the halo of the trend.

Execution: Do what tiktok says. Trending shoes? Get them. (If you don't have the money consider getting reps. Find the best identical ones or you will get raped if they find out its fake.) Learn how normies use terms, even if you already know the true meaning. (ex; larp, mog, bp, and so on...)

HOW TO MAINTAIN A CONVO:

Concept: This bit is fairly simple. If you have gotten yourself into a conversation, remember to never be the one to let the ball drop. This means that you are to never be the one who creates dead air. And ofc you don’t actually need to listen to everything they say. Just pick a noun or verb from their last sentence and throw it back as a question. Normie: "I had to wait in line at the club forever." You: "the club? Which one did you go to?" And you will have an easy response. You could surprisingly do this for very long. And if you need to zone out, do not go silent. Just say stuff like "no way", "fr?", "thats crazy", and things like that to keep the conversation. And if a topic dies, transition. Say something along the lines of "oh speaking of (thing they just said), did you hear about? (insert random thing that somewhat matches the topic.) This works because normies dont care where the convo leads, they get nothing out of it at the end of the day. Instead, they just care about frictionless conversations. And it is your job to not create friction. Be smooth, and follow topics/ideas (this works best in groups of 3.)

SUMMARY:

To socialize is to become a normie. Follow the norms on tiktok, even if you find it corny or retarded. Its the only way to rope them in to a convo. Before you talk think. Does it make you sound retarded, will it make them cringe, etc. Always try to talk to groups of 3, following theory #2, and do not be yourself.

This may sound awful, but thats how society was constructed. We are aliens to NTs. We have got to stop speaking our alien language, and learn the tiktok language.

Well bhais, for being my first effort post/guide, this seems informative enough to help some of my NDs lurking these forums. Now, hopefully you will be able to connect with others following my guide. Feel free to give me feedback or anything 🥰