what to do as an ethnic?

im black and I live in the uk

my main problem is that I dont look or act like the normal black guy and it seems the only way to get female attention from them is by having this "yn" mindset and obviously being attractive.

id say my personality and interests are more common with white guys in my area which girls are interested in but wouldn't deem me their type

most of friends are white because I just dont fit in with the average black guy in my area cuz im just not like that

I do like my friends and they just tell me to be myself but I feel being myself is holding me back

even black girls aren't interested in me and some even hate me just because im myself and im not the average black guy

this is even worse cuz ive been getting called nd for awhile now (mainly cuz of the way I act apparently?)

btw im not saying that girls should find me attractive or anything it just feels like im stuck because im being myself

should I rlly have to change myself to be deemed as normal?
any advice would be appreciated